Recognise Your Negative Thinking
Recognise Your Negative Thinking When our negative thinking goes unrecognised it causes us all sorts of pain, stress and unhappiness. Here's one version of what it can be like - and how recognition can begin to make a world of difference. “So… I wanted to fight my...
Authentic Best Self: Shine a Little Brighter
Authentic Best Self: Shine a Little Brighter Right then – in the previous post we built an understanding of who we are when at our best. We made a list of all the positive, inspiring qualities and actions that together, represent our Authentic Best Self. We know...
The Feel-Good Journey Towards Your Best Self
The Feel-Good Journey Towards Your Best Self I’ve seen it argued that the authentic self is actually… well… a bit rubbish, that it’s naturally a bit of a slob, a weak, self-indulgent, bingeing, path-of-least-resistance, bozo do-nothing. After all, the argument...
Your Horrible Inner Critic is not You
Your Horrible Inner Critic is not You When your negative thoughts and your Horrible Inner Critic are strong, it’s easy to feel it's at the very core of who you are. But the Horrible Inner Critic is not at your core. Your Horrible Inner Critic is not you. Some of...
Lockdown Positivity Checklist
Hey everyone. If you're stuck at home in lockdown it's easy to watch too much bad news and find your mind focusing on negative and unhelpful thoughts, and your mood gradually sinking down to your knees. So for those of us with time on our hands and prone to too...
Don’t Breed Your Negative Thoughts
Don’t Breed Your Negative Thoughts It’s often the sheer quantity of negative thoughts that weigh us down. But for those times when we’re in a more positive frame of mind, we can stop stray, unhelpful thoughts from sticking in our head and filling up our mind. Take...
How to Clobber Negative Thinking with Neuroplasticity
How to Clobber Negative Thinking with Neuroplasticity Smash those useless ‘I can’t…’ thoughts right out of the park. One of the most common and debilitating negative thoughts is this: I can’t. When our Horrible Inner Critic is constantly feeding this paralysing...
Visualize Your Horrible Inner Critic – Part 2
Visualize Your Horrible Inner Critic – Part 2 Here we are then in the second part of the Horrible Inner Critic (HIC) Visualization process. This is where we can have a bit of fun with our HIC. If you’ve not read Part 1 yet, please do take a look at that first –...
Visualize your Horrible Inner Critic – Part 1
Visualize your Horrible Inner Critic - Part 1 In Say Hello to Your Horrible Inner Critic I introduced the idea of personifying your negative thoughts to help deal with them more effectively. As a first step we named it. Now we follow our mind's-eye to get an...
The Inner Critic’s Surprising Origins
How does our negative voice – our Horrible Inner Critic – develop? Here are two theories. I think they’re both right. Theory One – Stone Age and Before Well, back in the day – that is – lots of millions of days back, in the time of our cave dwelling ancestors –...
